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Step Two:
Learn to start conversations on a positive note. In these times when we’re
usually in a hurry and have too much on our agendas, it’s easy to
forget to start a conversation with someone by emphasizing the positive.
For example, if your brother hasn’t returned your phone calls in
a week and you’re worried about him, it’s not uncommon to
start the conversation when you do finally reach him with, “You
never return phone calls. What’s the matter with you? Don’t
you care about your family? What’s going on?” Chances are,
this would put him on the defensive and not accomplish what you were hoping
for, which was an emotional connection with your brother. Instead, expressing
what you’re really feeling has a better chance of meeting both your
needs and your brothers, “I’ve been really worried about you.
I like it when we can speak more often. How are you?” |
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