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Most of the time, to get what you want or need, you have to ask. But asking can be difficult, especially during times of stress or crisis. Although it is true that assertiveness can be thought of as insistent or demanding, being appropriately assertive involves making requests that are clear and not aggressive. Here are some ways to make requests so that people you are in relationships with will know what you need - whether in times of stress or just everyday.
For example, if you are having a difficult time at work and you would just like for your partner to listen and not tell you what to do about it, you could say, "I'm feeling really overwhelmed at work because of all of the layoffs. I know when you give me advice you are just trying to help, but I would really like it if you would just let me vent and listen but not tell me what I should do. Just give me a hug."
For example, if you are feeling really
angry at something and want to tell a friend about it, you may preface
it with, "I'm feeling really angry right now but it's not at you. I
just need to tell you about it and I would like to hear your thoughts
on it." Learning to communicate requests clearly helps to increase your sense of self worth and confidence and contributes to a sense of optimism and happiness by helping to enhance your relationships and get your needs met. Click below to learn about setting specific goals for yourself to increase your emotional resilience. |
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