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Use
these exercises to help you decide what relationships in your life need to be
improved and why you should improve them.
Print it and keep it in your journal. |
Make a list of any negative
consequences in your life from your current patterns of relating to
others. They may include difficulties
with a co-worker, feeling you don’t know your child as well as you would like
to, or feeling some distance with your spouse. Do not consider who is at
fault – the issue is looking at relationships in your life that need
improvement so that you can begin to learn what you can do to improve them. |
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Make a list of the
factors in your life that would support change. Do you have a history of
cancer, heart disease or other illnesses related to or made worse by
stress? Your own health may depend on
your ability to improve your relationships. What about your children? Would they benefit from your improved relationship
with them or with your spouse? |
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List any barriers to
improving your relating skills.
Unfortunately there are always barriers to self-improvement. Make a list of all the people, things, or
situations that could discourage you as you work to improve your
relationships with yourself and others. |
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List the people in
your life who would support change.
Perhaps you have a friend who has not heard from you in a while who
would support reconnecting with you.
Your spouse or partner might enjoy learning more about building a
stronger relationship too. Would your
work situation improve if your skills in conflict resolution and relating to
others improved? |
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Last but not least,
write a note to yourself from the perspective of someone who cares about you
and who would like to see you improve your relationship skills. |
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